Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Math teacher

One day Maths teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. 

Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.

It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in

'Kargil' war and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never attended Funeral of a serviceman before. He looked so handsome, so mature.

The place was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk. The teacher was the last one to bless.  

As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. 'Were you Sanjay's math teacher?' he asked. She nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Sanjay talked about you a lot.'

After the funeral, most of Sanjay's former classmates were there. Sanjay's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.

'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket 'They found this on Sanjay when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.'

Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Sanjay's classmates had said about him.

'Thank you so much for doing that,' Sanjay's mother said. 'As you can see, Sanjay treasured it.'

All of Sanjay's former classmates started to gather around. Arjun smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home.'

Prithwiraj's wife said, ' Prithwiraj asked me to put his in our wedding album.'

'I have mine too,' Rashmi said. 'It's in my diary'

Then Deepali, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all times,' Deepali said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: 'I think we all saved our lists'

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Sanjay and for all his friends who would never see him again.

The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.

So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

And One Way To Accomplish This Is: Forward this message on. If you do not send it, you will have, once again passed up the wonderful opportunity to do something nice and beautiful. But its upto U to fwd this one.

If you've received this, it is because someone cares for you and it means there is probably at least someone for whom you care.

If you're 'too busy' to take those few minutes right now to forward this message on, would this be the VERY first time you didn't do that little thing that would make a difference in your relationships?

The more people that you send this to, the better you'll be at reaching out to those you care about.

Friday, February 13, 2009

Choices in life

You have two choices.

Jerry is the manager of a restaurant. He is always in a good mood.

When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply: 
"If I were any better, I would be twins!"

Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant

Why ?

If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling him how to look on the positive side of the situation. 

Because, Jerry was a natural motivator.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him 
"I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" 

Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. 

I always choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it... 

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life." 

"But it's not always that easy," I protested. 

"Yes it is," Jerry said. 

"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice. 

You choose how you react to situations. 

You choose how people will affect your mood. 
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. 
It's your choice how you live your life."

Several years later, 

I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are never supposed to do in the restaurant business. 
He left the back door of his restaurant open

And then in the morning, he was robbed by three armed men. 

While Jerry trying to open the safe box,  

his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. 

The robbers panicked and shot him. 

Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. 

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. 

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. 

When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins.Want to see my scars?" 

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. 

"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.

"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or could choose to die.  
I chose to live." 

Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. 

But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the ex-pression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. 

In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man'. 

I knew I needed to take action." 

"What did you do?" I asked. 

"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything." 

'Yes,' to bullets, I replied. 

Over their laughter, I told them: "I am choosing to live. Please operate on meas if I am alive, not dead." 

"Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.

I learned from him that every day you have the choice toeither enjoy your life or to hate it. 

The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier. 

Now you have two choices to make: 

1. You can delete this message or
2. You can forward it to someone you care about. 

I hope you will choose #2. I did.