Tuesday, May 08, 2007

The Messages of Vivekananda

- Swami Vivekananda

My ideal indeed can be put into a few words and that is; to preach unto  mankind their divinity, and how to make it manifest in every movement of life.  

Fill the mind with the highest thoughts, hear them day after day, and think  them month after month. The ideal of man is to see God in everything. But if you  cannot see Him in everything, see Him in one thing, in that thing which you like  best, and then see him in another. So on you can go.  

The ultimate goal of all mankind, the aim and end of all religion, is but  one-reunion with God, or, what amounts to the same, with the divinity, which is  every man's true nature.  

Life is the unfoldment and development of a being under circumstances tending  press it down.  

Ye divinities on earth-sinners! It is a sin to call a man so; it is a  standing libel on human nature. Come up, O lions, the delusion that you are  sheep, you are souls immortal, spirits free, blest and eternal; ye are not  matter, ye are not bodies; matter is your servant, not you the servant of  matter.  

It may be that I shall find it good to get outside of my body – to cast it  off like a disused garment. But I shall not cease to work! I shall inspire men  everywhere, until the world shall know that it is one with God.  

I only preach what is good for universal humanity.  

If you have faith in the three hundred and thirty millions of mythological  gods, and in all the gods which foreigners have introduced into your midst, and  still have no faith in yourselves, there is no salvation for you. Have faith in  yourselves and stand up on that faith.  

There must be no fear. No begging, but demanding - demanding the Highest. The  true devotees of the Mother are as hard as adamant and as fearless as lions.  They are not the least upset if the whole universe suddenly crumbles into dust  at their feet; Make Her listen to you. None of that cringing to Mother!  Remember, She is all-powerful. She can make heroes even out of stones!  

The history of the world is the history of a few men who had faith in  themselves. That faith calls out the divinity within. You can do anything. You  fail only when you do not strive sufficiently to manifest infinite power. As  soon as a man or a nation loses faith in himself or itself, death comes. Believe  first in yourself, and then in God.

He is an atheist who does not believe in himself. The old religions said that  he was an atheist who did not believe in God. The new religion says that he is  the atheist, who does not believe in himself.  

Never think there is anything impossible for the soul. It is the greatest  heresy to think so. If there is any sin, this is the only sin – to say that you  are weak, or others are weak.  

The older I grow, the more everything seems to me lie in manliness. This is  my new Gospel.  

If you look, you will find that I have never quoted anything but the  Upanishads. An of the Upanishads, it is only that one idea, strength. The  quintessence of the Veda and Vedanta and all lies in that word.

India is immortal, if she persists in her search for God.

I do not mean to say that political or social improvements are not necessary,  but what I mean is this, that they are secondary here, and that religion is  primary.

I claim that no destruction of religion is necessary to improve the Hindu  society, and that this state of society exists not on account of religion, but  because religion has not been applied to society as it should have been.  

None can resist her (India) any more; never is she going to sleep any more;  no outward powers can hold her back any more; for the infinite giant is rising  to her feet.  

So long as the millions die in hunger and ignorance, I hold every man a  traitor who, having been educated at their expense pays not the least heed to  them!  

So long as even a single dog in my country is without food, my whole religion  would be to feed it.  

Where should you go to seek for God? Are not all the poor, the miserable, the  weak, gods? Why not worship them first? Why go to dig a well on the shores of  the Ganga? Let these people be your God – think of them incessantly – the Lord  will show you the way.  

Purity, patience, and perseverance are the three essentials to success, and  above all, love.  

Be pure, staunch, and sincere to the backbone, and everything else will be  right. If you have marked anything in the disciples of Shri Ramakrishna, it is  this-they are sincere to the backbone. My task will be done and I shall be quite  content to die, if I can bring and launch one hundred such men all over India.  He, Lord, knows best. The petty attempts of small men should be beneath our  notice. Onward! Upon ages of struggle a character is built. One word of truth  can never be hidden under rubbish, but it will show itself sooner or later.  Truth is indestructible, virtue is indestructible, and purity is indestructible.  

Let each one of us pray day and night for the downtrodden millions in India  who are held fast by poverty, priest craft, and tyranny-pray day and night for  them, I care more to preach religion to them than to the high and the rich. I am  no metaphysician, no philosopher, nay no saint. But I am poor, I love the  poor.

The less you read the better. Read the Gita and other good works on the  Vedanta. That is all you need. The present system of education is all wrong. The  mind is crammed with facts before it knows to think. Control of the mind should  be taught first. If I had my education to get over again and had any voice in  the matter, I would learn to master my mind first, and then gather facts if I  wanted them. It takes people a long time to learn things because they can't  concentrate their minds at will.  

Education is the manifestation of the perfection already in man. Real  education is that which enables one to stand on one's own legs. The education  that you are receiving now in schools and colleges is only making you a race of  dyspeptics. You are working like machines merely, and living a jellyfish  existence.  

We must have life-building, man-making, character-making, assimilation of  ideas. If you have assimilated five ideas and made them your life and character,  you have more education than any man who has got by heart a whole library.  

Bring all light into the world. Let light come to everyone; the task will not  be finished till everyone has reached the Lord. Bring light to the poor; and  bring more light to the rich, for they require it more the poor! Bring light to  the ignorant, and more light to the educated, for the vanities of the education  of our time are tremendous! Thus bring light to all and leave the rest unto the  Lord.  

Why is it that our country is the weakest and the most backward of all  countries? Because Shakti is held in dishonor there. Mother (Shri Sarada Debi,  the spiritual consort of Shri Ramakrishna) has been born to revive that  wonderful Shakti in India; and making her the nucleus, once more will Gargis and  Maitreyais be born into the world.  

There is no chance for the welfare of the world unless the condition of woman  is improved. It is not possible for a bird to fly on only one wing. Woman must  be in a position to solve their own problems in their own way. No one can or  ought to do this for them. And our Indian are as capable of doing it as any in  the world.  

I know that the race that produced Sita-even if it only dreamt of her-has a  reverence for woman that is unmatched on earth.  

O India! Forget not that the ideal of they womanhood is Sita, Savitri,  Damayanti; forget not that the God thou worshippest is the great Ascetic of  ascetics, the all-renouncing Shankara, the Lord of Uma; forget not that they  marriage, they wealth, they life are not for self-pleasure-are not for they  individual personal happiness; forget not that thou art born as a sacrifice to  the Mother's altar; forget not that they social order is but the reflex of the  Infinite Universal Motherhood; forget not that the lower classes, the ignorant,  the poor, the illiterate, the cobbler, the sweeper, are they flesh and blood,  they brothers. Thou brave one, be bold, take courage, be proud that thou art an  Indian, and proudly proclaim-'I am an Indian, every Indian, the poor and  destitute Indian is my brother.' Thou, too, clad with but a rag round thy loins  proudly proclaim at the top of thy voice-'The Indian is my brother; the Indian  is my life; India's gods and goddesses are my God; India's society is the cradle  of my infancy, the pleasure-garden of my youth, the sacred heaven-the Varanasi  (Banaras)-of my old age. Say brother-'The soil of India is my highest heaven,  the good of India is my good', and repeat and pray day and night-'O Though Lord  of Gauri! O Thou Mother of the Universe! Vouchsafe manliness unto me! O Thou  Mother of Strength! Take away my weakness, take away my unmanliness and make me  a Man!'

What we need today is to know that there is a God, and that we can see and  feel Him here and now.  

We want everything but God, because our ordinary desires are fulfilled by the  external world. So long as our needs are confined within the limits of the  physical universe, it is only when we have had hard blows in our lives and are  disappointed with everything here that we feel the need for something higher;  then we seek God.  

Religion can be relished. Are you ready? Do you want it? You will get  realization if you do, and then you will be truly religious. Until you have  attained realization, there is no difference between you and atheists. The  atheists are sincere, but the man who says that he believes in religion and  never attempts to realize it is not sincere.  

Religion deals with the truths of the metaphysical world, just as chemistry  and the other natural sciences deal with the truths of the physical world. Each  soul is a star, and all stars are set in that infinite azure, that eternal sky,  the Lord. There is the root, the reality, the real individuality of each and  all. Religion began with the search after some of these stars that had passed  beyond you horizon, and ended in finding them in God, and ourselves in the same  place.  

Take religion from human society and what will remain? Nothing but a forest  of brutes. Sense-happiness is not the goal of humanity; wisdom is the goal of  all life.

Can religion really accomplish anything? It can. It brings to man eternal  life. It has made man what he is and will make of this human animal, a God. That  is what religion can do. The ideal of all religions, all sects, is the same-the  attaining of liberty, the cessation of misery.  

Not a drop will be in the ocean, not a twig in the deepest forest, not a  crumb in the house of the god of wealth, if the Lord is not merciful. Streams  will be in the desert and the beggar will have plenty if He wills it. He seeth  the sparrow's fall. Are these but words or literal, actual life?

These prophets were not unique; they were men as you or I. They were great  Yogis. They had gained this super-consciousness, and you and I can get the same.  They very fact that one man ever reached that state, proves that it is possible  for every man to do so. Not only is it possible, but every man must, eventually,  get to that state, and that is religion.

Religions of the world have become lifeless mockeries. What the world wants  is character. The world is in need fro those whose life is one burning love,  selfless. That love will make every word tell like thunderbolt.  

If there is ever to be a universal religion, it must be one which will have  no location in place or time; which will be infinite like the God it will  preach, and whose sun will shine upon the followers of Krishna and of Christ, on  saints and sinners alike; which will not be Brahminic or Buddhistic, Christian  or Mohammedan, but the sum total of all these, and still have infinite space fro  development; which in its catholicity will embrace in its infinite arms, and  find a place for, every human being, from the lowest groveling savage not far  removed from the brute, to the highest man towering by virtues of his head and  heart almost above humanity, making society stand in awe of him and doubt his  human nature. It will be a religion which will have no place for persecution or  intolerance in its polity, which will recognize divinity in every man and woman,  and whose whole scope, whose whole force, will be centered in aiding humanity to  realize its own true, divine nature.  

What I want to propagate is a religion that will be equally acceptable to all  minds; it must be equally philosophic, equally emotional, equally mystic, and  equally conducive to action. And this combination will be the ideal of the  nearest approach to a universal religion. Would to God that all men were so  constituted that in their minds all these elements of philosophy, mysticism,  emotion, and of work were equally present in full! That is the ideal, my ideal  of a perfect man. Everyone who has only one or two of these elements of  character, I consider "one-sided"; and this world is almost full of such  "one-sided" men, with knowledge of that one road only in which they move; and  anything else is dangerous and horrible to them. To become harmoniously balanced  in all these four directions is my ideal of religion.  

Hindus accept every religion, praying in the mosque of the Mohammedans,  worshipping before the fire of the Zoroastrians, and kneeling before the cross  of the Christians, knowing that all the religions, from the lowest fetishism to  the highest absolutism, mean so many attempts of the human soul to grasp and  realize the infinite, each determined by the conditions of its birth and  associations, and each of them marking a stage of progress. We gather all these  flowers and bind them with the twine of love, making a wonderful bouquet of  worship.

Religion is realization; not talk, nor doctrine, nor theories, however  beautiful they may be. It is being and becoming, not hearing or acknowledging;  it is the whole soul becoming changed into what it believes.

This life is short, the vanities of the world are transient, but they alone  live who live for others, the rest are more dead than alive.  

Be you holy and, above all, sincere and do not for a moment give up your  trust in the Lord and you will see the light. Whatever is truth will remain for  ever; whatever is not, none can preserve. Whatever others think or do, lower not  your standard of purity, morality, and love of God. No one who loves God need  fear any jugglery. Holiness is the highest and divinest power in earth and in  heaven. "Truth alone triumphs, not untruth. Through truth alone is opened the  way to God." Do not care for a moment who joins hands with you or not, be sure  that you touch the hand of the Lord.

Let there be but a dozen lion-souls in each country, lions who have broken  their own bonds, who have touched the Infinite, whose whole soul is gone to  Brahman, who care neither for wealth, nor power, nor fame, and these will be  enough to shake the world.  

Those who give themselves up to the Lord do more for the world than all the  so-called workers.  

If you seek you own salvation, you will go to hell. It is the salvation of  others that you must seek and even if you have to go to hell in working for  others, that is worth more than to gain heaven by seeking your own  salvation.

No one ever succeeded in keeping society in good humor and at the same time  did great works. One must work as the dictate comes from within, and then if it  is right and good, society is bound to veer round, perhaps centuries after one  is dead and gone. We must plunge heart and soul and body into the work. And  until we be ready to sacrifice everything else to one Idea and to one alone, we  never, never will see the light.  

Those that want to help mankind must take their own pleasure and pain, name  and fame, and all sorts of interests, and make a bundle of them and throw them  into the sea, and then come to the Lord. This is what all the Masters said and  died.  

Let everybody work out his own vision of this universe, according to his own  ideas. Injure none, deny the position of none; take man where he stands and, if  you can, lend him a helping hand and put him on a higher platform, but do not  injure and do not destroy. All will come to truth in the long run. When all the  desires of the heart will be vanquished, then this very mortal will become  immortal'-then the very man will become God.  

The only true duty is to be unattached and to work as free beings, to give up  all work unto God. All duties are His.

The seeing of many is the great sin of all the world. See all as Self and  lobe all; let all idea of separateness go.  

No work is secular. All work is adoration and worship.

As I grow older I find that I look more and more for greatness in little  things. I want to know what a great man eats and wears, and how he speaks to his  servants. Anyone will be great in a great position. Even the coward will grow  brave in the glare of the footlights. The world looks on! More and more the true  greatness seems to me that of the worm doing its duty silently, steadily, from  moment to moment and hour to hour.  

Even the greatest fool can accomplish a task if it be after his heart. But  the intelligent man is he who can convert every work into one that suits his  taste. No work is petty. Everything in this world is like a banyan-seed, which,  though appearing tiny as a mustard-seed, has yet the gigantic banyan tree latent  within it. He indeed is intelligent who notices this and succeeds in making all  work truly great.  

This world is in chains of superstition. I pity the oppressed, whether man or  woman, and I pity more the oppressors. In this world always take the position of  the giver. Give everything and look for no return. Give love, give help, give  service, and give any little thing you can, but keep out barter. Make on  conditions and none will be imposed. Let us give out of our own bounty, just as  God gives to us. The Lord is the only Giver, all the world are only shopkeepers.  Get His cheque and it must be honored everywhere.

Until we give up the world manufactured by the ego, never can we enter the  kingdom of heaven. None ever did, none ever will. To give up the world is to  forget the ego, to know it not al all—living in the body, but not of it. This  rascal ego must be obliterated. Bless men when they revile you. Think how much  good they are doing you; they can only hurt themselves. Go where people hate  you, let them thrash the ego out of you, and you will get nearer to the  Lord.

Learn to feel yourself in other bodies, to know that we are all one. Throw  all other nonsense to the winds. Spit out your actions, good or bad, and never  think of them again. What is done is done. Throw off superstition. Have no  weakness even in the face of death. Do not repent, do not brood over past deeds,  and do not remember your good deeds, be azad. The weak, the fearful, the  ignorant will never reach the Atman. You cannot undo, the effect must come, face  it; but be careful never to do the same thing again. Give up the burden of all  deeds to the Lord; give all, both good and bad. Do not keep the good and give  only the bad. God helps those who do not help themselves.

To him who has one thing in the universe the Lord comes.  

'Drinking the cup of desire, the world becomes mad, Day and night never come  together, so desire and the Lord can never come together.  

One idea that I see clear as day-light is that misery is caused by ignorance  and nothing else. Who will give the world light? Sacrifice in the past has been  the law; it will be, alas, for ages to come. The earth's bravest and best will  have to sacrifice themselves for the good of many, for the welfare of all.  Buddhas by the hundred are necessary with eternal love and pity.  

Bold words and bolder deeds are what we want. Awake, awake, great ones! This  world is burning with misery. Can you sleep? Let us call and call till the  sleeping gods awake, till the god within answers to the call. What more is in  life? What greater work? The details come to me as I go. I never make plans.  Plans grow and work themselves. I only say, awake, awake!

I have lost all wish for my salvation. I never wanted earthly enjoyments. I  must see my machine in strong working order, and then knowing sure that I have  put in a lever for the good of humanity, in India at least, which no power can  drive back, I will sleep, without caring what will be next; and may I be born  again and again, and suffer thousands of miseries so that I may worship the only  God that exist, the only God I believe in, the sum total of all souls-and above  all my God the wicked, my God the miserable, my God the poor of all races, of  all species, is the special object of my worship.  

It is our privilege to be allowed to be charitable, for only so ca we grow.  The poor man suffers that we may be helped; let the giver kneel down and give  thanks, let the receiver stand up and permit. See the Lord back of every being  and give Him. Hold your money merely as custodian for what is God's. Let name  and fame and money go; they are a terrible bondage. Feel the wonderful  atmosphere of freedom. You are free, free, free! Oh, blessed am I! I am the  Infinite! In my soul I can find no beginning and no end. All is my self. Say  this unceasingly.  

Never think you can make the world better and happier. The bullock in the  oil-mil never reaches the wisp if hay tied in front of him, he only grinds out  the oil. So we chase the will-o'-wisp of happiness that always eludes us and we  only grinds nature's mill, then die merely to begin again. If we could get rid  of evil, we should never catch a glimpse of anything higher; we would be  satisfied and never struggle to get free. When man finds that all search for  happiness in matter is nonsense, then religion begins. All human knowledge is  but a part of religion.

Look upon every man, woman, and everyone as God. You cannot help anyone, you  can only serve: serve the children of the Lord, serve the Lord himself, if you  have the privilege. If the Lord grants that you can help anyone of His children,  bessed you are; do not think too much of yourselves. Blessed you are that that  privilege was given was given to you when others had it not. Do it only as a  worship. I should see God in the poor, and it is for my salvation that I go and  worship them. The poor and the miserable are for our salvation, so that we may  serve the Lord, coming in the shape of the diseased, coming in the shape of the  lunatic, the leper, and the sinner! Bold are my words, and let me repeat that it  is the greatest privilege in our life that we are allowed to serve the Lord in  all thes shapes. Give up the idea that by ruling over others you can do any good  to them.

The only God to worship is the human soul in the human body. Of course all  animals are temples too, but man is the highest, the Taj Mahal of temples. If I  cannot worship in that, no other temple will be of any advantage. Each soul is  potentially divine. The goal is to manifest this divinity within by controlling  nature, either by work, or worship, or psychic control, or philosophy-by one or  more or all of these-and be free. This is the whole of religion. Coctrines or  dogmas or rituals or books or temples or forms are but secondary details.  

All truth is eternal. Truth is nobody's property; no race, no individual can  lay any exclusive claim to it. Truth is the nature of all souls. Who can lay any  special claim to it? But ist has to be maid practical, to be made simple (for  the highest truths are always simple), so that it may penertrate every pore of  human society, and become the property of the highest intellects and the  commonest minds, of the man, woman and child at the same time. All these  ratiocinations of logic, all these bundles of metaphysics, all these theologies  and ceremonies may have been good in their own time, but let us try to make  things simpler and bring about the golden days when every man will be a  worshipper, and the Reality in everyman will be the object of worship.  

From highest Brahman to the yonder worm,
And to the very minutest  atom,
Everywhere is the same God, the All-Love;
Friends, offer mind,  soul, body at their feet.
These are His manifold forms before thee,  
Rejecting them, where seekest thou for God?
Who loves all beings, without  distinction,
He indeed is worshipping best his God.

Let us perfect the means; the end will take care of itself. For the world can  be good and pure, only if our lives are good and pure. Therefore, let us purify  ourselves. Let us make ourselves perfect.

When we cease to see evil, the world must end for us since to rid us of that  mistake is its only object. To think there is any imperfection, creates it.  Thoughts of strength and perfection alone can cure it. Do what good you can,  some evil will inhere in it; but do all without regards to personal result, give  up all results to the Lord, then neither good nor evil will affect you. The less  the thought of the body, the better. For it is the body that drags us down. It  is attachment, identification, which makes us miserable. That is the secret: To  think that I am the spirit and not the body, and that the whole of this universe  with all its relations, with all its good and all its evil, is but as a series  of paintings-scenes on a canvas-of which I am the witness. He who is alone is  happy. Do good to all, like everyone, but do not love anyone. It is a bondage.,  and bondage brings only misery. Live alone in your mind-that is happiness. To  have nobody to care for and never minding who cares for one is the way to be  free.  

Do not blame any supernatural being, neither be hopeless and despondent, nor  think we are in a place from which we can never escape unless someone comes and  lends us a helping hand. That cannot be, says the Vedanta; we are like  silk-worms. We make the thread out of our won substance and spin the cocoon, and  in course of time, are imprisoned inside. But this is not for ever. In that  cocoon we shall develop spiritual realization, and like the butterfly come out  free.

Truth never comes where lust and fame and free
Of gain reside. No man who  thinks of woman
As his wife can ever perfect be;
Nor he who owns the lest  of things, nor he
Whom anger chains, can ever pass thro' Maya's gates
So  give these up, Sanyasin bold; Say-"Om Tat Sat Om!"

The time was ripe for one to be born, who in one body would have the  brilliant intellect of Shankara and the wonderfully expansive, infinite heart of  Chaitanya; one who would see in every sect the same spirit working, the same  God; one who would see God in every being, one whose heart would weep for the  poor, for the weak, for the outcase, for the downtrodden, for everyone in this  world, inside India or outside India; and at the same time whose grand brilliant  intellect would harmonise all conflicting sects, not only in India but outside  of India, and bring a marvelous harmony, the universal religion of head and  heart into existence.

Through thousands of years of chiseling and modeling, the lives of the great  prophets of yore come down to us; and yet, in my opinion, not one stands so high  in brilliance as that life which I saw with my own eyes, under whose shadow I  have lived, at whose feet I have learnt everything-the life of Ramakrishna  Paramhamsa.

He was a triumphant example, a living realization of the complete conquest of  lust and of desire for money. He was beyond all ideas of either, and such men  are necessary for this century. Such renunciation is necessary in these days  when men have begun to think that they cannot live a month without what they  call their "necessities" and which they are increasing out of all proportion. It  is necessary in a time like this that a man should arise to demonstrate to the  skeptics of the world that there yet breathes a man who does not care a straw  for all the godl or all the fame that is in the universe.  

Once more He has come to help his children. Once more the oppporunity is  giben to rise to fallen India. India can only rise by sitting at the feet of  Shri Ramakrishna. His life and his teachings are to be spread far and wide, are  t be made to penetrate every pore of hindu society. Who will do it? Who are to  take up the flag of Ramakrishna and march for thesalvation of the world? Who are  to stem the tide of degeneration at the sacrifice of name and fame, wealth and  enjoyment-nay of every hope of this or other worlds? A few men have jumped into  the breach, have sacrificed themselves. They area few, we want a few thousands  of such as they, and they will come … Glory unto him on whom falls the Lord's  Choice.

Now in this life let us infinitely spread his lofty character, his sublime  life, his infinite soul. This is the only work-there is nothing else to do.  Wherever his name will reach, the veriest worm will attain divinity, nay he is  actually attaining it … Whoever will be ready to serve him-no, not him but his  children-the poor and the downtrodden, the sinful and the afflicted, down to the  very worm-who will be ready to serve these, in them he will manifest himself.  Through their tongue the Goddess of Learning Herself will speak, and the Divine  Mother-the Embodiment of all power-will enthrone Herself in their hearts.

The Lord is always with me. Follow me, if you will, by being intensely  sincere, perfectly unselfish, and, above all, by being perfectly pure. My  blessings go with you. In this short life, there is no time for the exchange of  compliments. We can compare notes and compliment each other to our heart's  content after the battle is finished. Now do not talk; work, work, work!

Chicago Speech

- Swami Vivekananda
( At the World's Parliament of Religions, Chicago, 11th  September, 1893)

Sisters and Brothers of America,
It fills my heart with joy unspeakable to  rise in response to the warm and cordial welcome which you have given us. I  thank you in the name of the most ancient order of monks in the world; I thank  you in the name of the mother of religions; and I thank you in the name of  millions and millions of Hindu people of all classes and sects.

My thanks, also, to some of the speakers on this platform who, referring to  the delegates from the Orient, have told you that these men from far-off nations  may well claim the honour of bearing to different lands the idea of toleration.  I am proud to belong to a religion which has taught the world both tolerance and  universal acceptance. We believe not only in universal toleration, but we accept  all religions as true. I am proud to belong to a nation which has sheltered the  persecuted and the refugees of all religions and all nations of the earth. I am  proud to tell you that we have gathered in our bosom the purest remnant of the  Israelites, who came to Southern India and took refuge with us in the very year  in which their holy temple was shattered to pieces by Roman tyranny. I am proud  to belong to the religion which has sheltered and is still fostering the remnant  of the grand Zoroastrian nation. I will quote to you, brethren, a few lines from  a hymn which I remember to have repeated from my earliest boyhood, which is  every day repeated by millions of human beings: "As the different streams having  their sources in different places all mingle their water in the sea, so, O Lord,  the different paths which men take through different tendencies, various though  they appear, crooked or straight, all lead to Thee."

The present convention, which is one of the most august assemblies ever held,  is in itself a vindication, a declaration to the world of the wonderful doctrine  preached in the Gita: "Whosoever comes to Me, through whatsoever form, I reach  him; all men are struggling through paths which in the end lead to me."  Sectarianism, bigotry, and its horrible descendant, fanaticism, have long  possessed this beautiful earth. They have filled the earth with violence,  drenched it often and often with human blood, destroyed civilisation and sent  whole nations to despair. Had it not been for these horrible demons, human  society would be far more advanced than it is now. But their time is come; and I  fervently hope that the bell that tolled this morning in honour of this  convention may be the death-knell of all fanaticism, of all persecutions with  the sword or with the pen, and of all uncharitable feelings between persons  wending their way to the same goal.

I will tell you a little story. You have heard the eloquent speaker who has  just finished say, "Let us cease from abusing each other," and he was very sorry  that there should be always so much variance.  

But I think I should tell you a story which would illustrate the cause of  this variance. A frog lived in a well. It had lived there for a long time. It  was born there and brought up there, and yet was a little, small frog. Of course  the evolutionists were not there then to tell us whether the frog lost its eyes  or not, but, for our story's sake, we must take it for granted that it had its  eyes, and that it every day cleansed the water of all the worms and bacilli that  lived in it with an energy that would do credit to our modern bacteriologists.  In this way it went on and became a little sleek and fat. Well, one day another  frog that lived in the sea came and fell into the well.  

"Where are you from?"  

"I am from the sea."  

"The sea! How big is that? Is it as big as my well?" and he took a leap from  one side of the well to the other.  

"My friend," said the frog of the sea, "how do you compare the sea with your  little well?"  

Then the frog took another leap and asked, "Is your sea so big?"  

"What nonsense you speak, to compare the sea with your well!"  

"Well, then," said the frog of the well, "nothing can be bigger than my well;  there can be nothing bigger than this; this fellow is a liar, so turn him out."  That has been the difficulty all the while.  

I am a Hindu. I am sitting in my own little well and thinking that the whole  world is my little well. The Christian sits in his little well and thinks the  whole world is his well. The Mohammedan sits in his little well and thinks that  is the whole world. I have to thank you of America for the great attempt you are  making to break down the barriers of this little world of ours, and hope that,  in the future, the Lord will help you to accomplish your purpose.

Visions for India

-Dr A P J Abdul  Kalam, President of India
 

I have three visions for India. In 3000 years of our history people from all  over the world have come and invaded us, captured our lands, conquered.our   minds.  

From Alexander onwards. The Greeks, the Turks, the Moguls, the Portuguese,  the British, the French, the Dutch, all of them came and looted us, took over  what was ours. Yet we have not done this to any other nation. We have not  conquered anyone. We have not grabbed their land, their culture, their history  and tried to enforce our way of life on them. Why? Because we respect the  freedom of others. That is why my first vision is that of FREEDOM. I believe  that India got its first vision of this in 1857, when we started the war of  independence. It is this freedom that we must protect and nurture and build on.  If we are not free, no one will respect us.  

My second vision for India is DEVELOPMENT. For fifty years we have been a  developing nation. It is time we see ourselves as a developed nation. We are  among top 5 nations of the world in terms of GDP. We have 10 percent growth rate  in most areas. Our poverty levels are falling. Our achievements are being  globally recognized today. Yet we lack the self-confidence to see ourselves as a  developed nation, self-reliant and self-assured. Isn't this incorrect?  

I have a THIRD vision. India must stand up to the world. Because I believe  that unless India stands up to the world, no one will respect us. Only strength  respects strength. We must be strong not only as a military power but also as an  economipower. Both must go hand-in-hand. My good fortune was to have worked with  three great minds. Dr. Vikram Sarabhai of the Dept. of space, Professor Satish  Dhawan, who succeeded him and Dr. Brahm Prakash, father of nuclear material. I  was lucky to have worked with all three of them closely and consider this the  great opportunity of my life.  

I see four milestones in my career:
ONE: Twenty years I spent in ISRO. I  was given the opportunity to be the project director for India's first satellite  launch vehicle, SLV3. The one that launched Rohini. These years played a very  important role in my life of Scientist.  

TWO: After my ISRO years, I joined DRDO and got a chance to be the part of  India's missile program. It was my second bliss when Agni met its mission  requirements in 1994.  

THREE: The Dept. of Atomic Energy and DRDO had this tremendous partnership in  the recent nuclear tests, on May 11 and 13. This was the third bliss. The joy of  participating with my team in these nuclear tests and proving to the world that  India can make it, that we are no longer a developing nation but one of them. It  made me feel very proud as an Indian. The fact that we have now developed for  Agni a re-entry structure, for which we have developed this new material. A Very  light material called carbon-carbon.  

FOUR: One day an orthopaedic surgeon from Nizam Institute of Medical Sciences  visited my laboratory. He lifted the material and found it so light that he took  me to his hospital and showed me his patients. There were these little girls and  boys with heavy metallic callipers weighing over three Kg.each, dragging their  feet around. He said to me: Please remove the pain of my patients. In three  weeks, we made these Floor reaction Orthosis 300 gram callipers and took them to  the orthopaedic centre. The children didn't believe their eyes. From dragging  around a three kg. load on their legs, they could now move around! Their parents  had tears in their eyes. That was my fourth bliss!  

Why is the media here so negative? Why are we in India so embarrassed to  recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We  have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why? We  are the first in milk production. We are number one in Remote sensing  satellites. We are the second largest producer of wheat. We are the second  largest producer of rice. Look at Dr. Sudarshan, he has transferred the tribal  village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such  achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and  disasters. I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It  was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place.  The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a  Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert land into an  orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to.  The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the  newspaper, buried among other news. In India we only read about death, sickness,  terrorism, crime. Why are we so NEGATIVE?  

Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We  want foreign TVs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology. Why this  obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes  with self-reliance?  

I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for  my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is: She replied: I want to live  in a developed India. For her, you and I will have to build this developed  India. You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly  developed nation. Allow me to come back with vengeance.  

Got 10 minutes for your country? YOU say that our government is inefficient.  YOU say that our laws are too old. YOU say that the municipality does not pick  up the garbage. YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke, the  airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination. YOU say  that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits. YOU say, say  and say. What do YOU do about it?  

Take a person on his way to Singapore. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a  face - YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International  best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the  stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground Links as they are. You pay $5  (approx. Rs.60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or  Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU comeback to the parking lot to punch  your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall  irrespective of your status identity. In Singapore you don't say anything, DO  YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai. YOU would not  dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah. YOU would not dare to buy an  employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to,  "see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else." YOU would not  dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88kmph) in Washington and then tell the traffic  cop, "Jaanta hai saala main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's  son. Take your two bucks and get lost." YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut  shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New  Zealand. Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo? Why don't YOU use  examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston? We are still talking of  the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other  countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on  the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and  appreciative citizen in an alien country why cannot you be the same here in  India.  

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay Mr.  Tinaikar had a point to make. "Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to  leave their affluent droppings all over the place," he said "And then the same  people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and  dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom  every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog  owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan. Will the  Indian citizen do that here?" He's right. We go to the polls to choose a  government and after that forfeit all responsibility. We sit back wanting to be  pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our  contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we  are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to  stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the  railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use  of bathrooms. We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food  and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.  This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the  public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women,  dowry, girl child and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and  continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? "It's the whole system which has  to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry." So  who's going to change the system? What does a system consist of? Very  conveniently for us it consists of our neighbors, other households, other  cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU.  When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we  lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the  distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr. Clean to come along & work  miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand. Or we leave the country and  run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in  their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to  England. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to  the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home  by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody  thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.  

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal  of introspection and pricks one's conscience too....I am echoing J.F.Kennedy's  words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians..... "ASK  WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA  AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY" Lets do what India needs from us.  

Adrift

-Adam Khan,Self-Help  Stuff That Works  

     In 1982 Steven Callahan was crossing the Atlantic alone in his sailboat  when it struck something and sank. He was out of the shipping lanes and floating  in a life raft, alone. His supplies were few. His chances were small. Yet when  three fishermen found him seventy-six days later (the longest anyone has  survived a shipwreck on a life raft alone), he was alive -- much skinnier than  he was when he started, but alive.  

His account of how he survived is fascinating. His ingenuity -- how he  managed to catch fish, how he fixed his solar still (evaporates sea water to  make fresh) -- is very interesting.  

But the thing that caught my eye was how he managed to keep himself going  when all hope seemed lost, when there seemed no point in continuing the  struggle, when he was suffering greatly, when his life raft was punctured and  after more than a week struggling with his weak body to fix it, it was still  leaking air and wearing him out to keep pumping it up. He was starved. He was  desperately dehydrated. He was thoroughly exhausted. Giving up would have seemed  the only sane option.  

When people survive these kinds of circumstances, they do something with  their minds that gives them the courage to keep going. Many people in similarly  desperate circumstances give in or go mad. Something the survivors do with their  thoughts helps them find the guts to carry on in spite of overwhelming odds.  

"I tell myself I can handle it," wrote Callahan in his narrative. "Compared  to what others have been through, I'm fortunate. I tell myself these things over  and over, building up fortitude...."  

I wrote that down after I read it. It struck me as something important. And  I've told myself the same thing when my own goals seemed far off or when my  problems seemed too overwhelming. And every time I've said it, I have always  come back to my senses.  

The truth is, our circumstances are only bad compared to something better.  But others have been through much worse. I've read enough history to know you  and I are lucky to be where we are, when we are, no matter how bad it seems to  us compared to our fantasies. It's a sane thought and worth thinking.  

So here, coming to us from the extreme edge of survival, are words that can  give us strength. Whatever you're going through, tell yourself you can handle  it. Compared to what others have been through, you're fortunate. Tell this to  yourself over and over, and it will help you get through the rough spots with a  little more fortitude.  


Learn from Mistakes

Thomas Edison tried two thousand different materials in search of a  filament for the light bulb. When none worked satisfactorily, his assistant  complained, "All our work is in vain. We have learned nothing." Edison replied  very confidently, "Oh, we have come a long way and we have learned a lot. We now  that there are two thousand elements which we cannot use to make a good light  bulb."  

Making of Infosys

It was in Pune that I met Narayan  Murty through my friend Prasanna  who is now the Wipro chief, who was also  training in Telco. Most of  the books that Prasanna lent me had Murty's name on  them  which meant that I had a preconceived image of the man.  Contrary to  expectation, Murty was shy, bespectacled and an  introvert. When he invited us  for dinner. I was a bit taken  aback as I thought the young man was making a  very fast move. I  refused since I was the only girl in the group. But Murty  was  relentless and we all decided to meet for dinner the next day at 7.30  p.m.  at Green Fields hotel on the Main Road, Pune.   

The next day I went there at 7' o clock since I had to  go to the  tailor near the hotel. And what do I see? Mr. Murty waiting in  front  of the hotel and it was only  seven.  Till today, Murty maintains that I had  mentioned (consciously!)  that I would be going to the tailor at 7 so that I  could meet  him...And I maintain that I did not say any such thing consciously   or unconsciously because I did not think of Murty as anything other  than a  friend at that stage. We have agreed to disagree on this  matter.   

Soon, we became friends. Our conversations were filled  with  Murty's experiences abroad and the books that he has read. My  friends  insisted that Murty was trying to impress me because he was  interested in me.I  kept denying it till one fine day, after dinner  Murty said, I want to tell you  something.  I knew this was it. It was coming. He said, I am 5'4" tall. I come   from a lower middle class family. I can never become rich in my  life and I can  never give you any riches. You are beautiful, bright,  and intelligent and you  can get anyone you want. But will you marry  me? I asked Murty to give me some  time for an answer. My father  didn't want me to marry a wannabe politician,(a  communist at  that) who didn't have a steady job and wanted to build  an  orphanage...  

When I went to Hubli I told my parents  about Murty and his  proposal. My mother was positive since Murty was also from   Karnataka, seemed intelligent and comes from a good family. But my father  asked: What's his job, his salary, his  qualifications etc? Murty was working as  a research assistant and was earning less than me. He was willing to go dutch  with me on our outings. My parents agreed to meet Murty in Pune on a   particular day at10 a. m sharp. Murty did not turn up. How can I  trust a man to  take care of my daughter if he cannot keep an  appointment, asked my father. At  12noon Murty turned up in a bright  red shirt! He had gone on work to Bombay,  was stuck in a traffic  jam on the ghats, so he hired a taxi (though it was  very  expensive for him) to meet his would-be father-in-law.  Father was  unimpressed. My father asked him what he wanted to  become in life. Murty said  he wanted to become a politician in  the communist party and wanted to open an  orphanage. My father  gave his verdict. NO. I don't want my daughter to marry  somebody  who wants to become a communist and then open an orphanage when he   himself didn't have money to support his family.  Ironically, today, I have  opened many orphanages something, which Murty wanted to do 25 years ago.  

By this time I realized I had developed a  liking towards Murty  which could only be termed as love. I wanted to marry  Murty  because he is an honest man. He proposed to me highlighting the   negatives in his life.  I promised my father that I will not marry Murty without  his  blessings though at the same time, I cannot marry anybody else.  My father  said he would agree if Murty promised to take up a  steady job. But Murty  refused saying he will not do things in  life because somebody wanted him to.  So, I was caught between  the two most important people in my life.  

The stalemate continued for three years  during which our courtship  took us to every restaurant and cinema hall in Pune.  In  those days, Murty was always broke. Moreover, he didn't earn much  to  manage. Ironically today, he manages Infosys Technologies Ltd., one of the  world's most reputed companies. He always owed me  money. We used to go for  dinner and he would say, I don't  have money with me, you pay my share, I will  return it to you  later. For three years I maintained a book on Murty's debt to   me.  No, he never returned the money and I finally tore it up after  my wedding.  The amount was a little over Rs 4000.    

During this interim period Murty quit his  job as research  assistant and started his own software business. Now, I had to  pay  his salary too!  Towards the late 70s computers were entering India in a  big way.  During the fag end of 1977 Murty decided to take up a job as  General  Manager at Patni Computers in Bombay. But before he joined  the company he  wanted to marry me since he was to go on training to  the US after joining. My  father gave in as he was happy Murty  had a decent job, now. WE WERE MARRIED IN  MURTY'S HOUSE IN BANGALORE ON FEBRUARY 10, 1978 WITH ONLY OUR TWO FAMILIES   PRESENT.I GOT MY  FIRST SILK SARI. THE WEDDING EXPENSES CAME TO ONLY RS 800 (US  $17) WITH MURTY AND I POOLING IN RS 400 EACH.  

I went to the US with Murty after marriage.  Murty encouraged me to  see America on my own because I loved traveling. I  toured  America for three months on backpack and had interesting  experiences  which will remain fresh in my mind forever.    

Like the time when the New York police took  me into custody  because they thought I was an Italian trafficking drugs in  Harlem.  Or the time when I  spent the night at the bottom of the Grand Canyon  with an old  couple. Murty panicked because he couldn't get a response from my  hotel room even at midnight. He thought I was either killed or   kidnapped.

IN 1981 MURTY WANTED TO START INFOSYS. HE  HAD A VISION AND ZERO  CAPITAL...initially I was very apprehensive about Murty  getting  into business. We did not have any business background. Moreover we   were living a comfortable life in Bombay with a regular pay check  and I didn't  want to rock the boat. But Murty was passionate about  creating good quality  software. I decided to support him. Typical of Murty, he just had a dream and no  money. So I gave him Rs. 10,000 which I had saved for a rainy day, without his  knowledge and told him, This is all I have. Take it. I give you three years  sabbatical leave. I will take care of the financial  needs of our house. You go  and chase your dreams without any  worry. But you have only three years!  Murty  and his six colleagues started Infosys in 1981,with  enormous interest and hard  work. In 1982 I left Telco and moved  to Pune with Murty.We bought a small house  on loan which  also became the Infosys office. I was a  clerk-cum-cook-cum-programmer. I also took up a job as  Senior Systems Analyst  with Walchand group of Industries to support  the house. In 1983 Infosys got  their first client, MICO, in Bangalore. Murty  moved to Bangalore and stayed  with his mother while I went to  Hubli to deliver my second child, Rohan. Ten  days after my son  was born, Murty left for the US on project work.  I saw him  only after a year, as I was unable to join Murty in the  US because my son had  infantile eczema, an allergy to  vaccinations.

So for more than a year I did not step  outside our home for  fear of my son contracting an infection. It was only after  Rohan  got all his vaccinations that I came to Bangalore where we rented a small  house in Jayanagar and rented another house as  Infosys headquarters. My father  presented Murty a scooter to commute.  I once again became a cook, programmer,  clerk, secretary, office  assistant et al. Nandan Nilekani (MD of Infosys) and  his wife Rohini stayed with us. While Rohini babysat my son, I wrote programs   for Infosys. There was no car, no phone, and just two kids  and a bunch of us  working hard, juggling our lives and having fun  while Infosys was taking shape.  It was not only me but also the  wives of other partners too who gave their  unstinted support. We  all knew that our men were trying to build something  good. It was  like a big joint family, taking care and looking out for one  another.

I still remember Sudha Gopalakrishna  looking after my daughter  Akshata with all care and love while Kumari Shibulal  cooked  for all of us. Murty made it very clear that it would either be  me or  him working at Infosys.  Never the two of us together... I was involved with  Infosys  initially. Nandan Nilekani suggested I should be on the Board  but  Murty said he did not want a husband and wife team  at Infosys. I was shocked  since I had the relevant experience and  technical qualifications. He said,  Sudha if you want to work with  Infosys, I will withdraw, happily. I was pained  to know that I  will not be involved in the company my husband was building and   that I would have to give up a job that I am qualified to do and love doing. It  took me a couple of days to grasp the reason  behind Murty's request.  I  realized that to make Infosys a success one had to give one's  100 percent. One  had to be focused on it alone with no other  distractions. If the two of us had  to give 100 percent to Infosys  then what would happen to our home and our  children? One of us  had to take care of our home while the other took care of   Infosys. I opted to be a homemaker, after all Infosys was Murty's  dream. It was  a big sacrifice but it was one that had  to be made. Even today, Murty says,  Sudha, I stepped on your  career to make mine. You are responsible for my  success. I might  have given up my career for my husband's sake.  But that does  not make me a doormat...    

Many think that I have been made the  sacrificial lamb at Narayan  Murty's altar of success. A few women journalists  have even  accused me of setting a wrong example by giving up  my dreams to make  my husbands a reality. Isn't freedom about  living your life the way you want  it? What is right for one  person might be wrong for another. It is up  to the  individual to make a choice that is effective in her life.  I feel that when a  woman gives up her right to choose for  herself is when she crosses over from  being an individual to a  doormat. Murty's dreams encompassed not only himself  but a  generation of people. It was about founding something worthy,  exemplary  and honorable. It was about creation and distribution of  wealth. His dreams  were grander than my career plans, in all  aspects. So, when I had to choose  between Murty's career  and mine, I opted for what I thought was a right choice.  We had a home and two little children. Measles, mumps, fractures, PTA  meetings,  wants and  needs of growing children do not care much for grandiose dreams.   They just needed to be attended to. Somebody had to take care  of it all.  Somebody had to stay back to create a home base that  would be fertile for  healthy growth, happiness, and more  dreams to dream. I became that somebody  willingly.  I can confidently say that if I had had a dream like Infosys, Murty  would have given me his unstinted support. The roles would have  been  reversed.

We are not bound by the archaic rules of  marriage. I cook for him  but I don't wait up to serve dinner like a traditional  wife.  So, he has no hassles about heating up the food and having his  dinner.  He does not intrude into my time especially when I am  writing my novels. He  does not interfere in my work at the  Infosys Foundation and I don't interfere  with the running of  Infosys. I teach Computer Science to MBA and MCA students  at  Christ college for a few hours every week and I earn around Rs  50,000 a  year. I value this financial independence greatly  though there is no need for  me to pursue a teaching career.  Murty respects that. I travel all over the  world without Murty  because he hates traveling. We trust each other  implicitly.

We  have another understanding too. While  he earns the money,  I  spend it, mostly through the charity. Philanthropy is a   profession and an art... The Infosys Foundation was born in 1997 with the sole  objective of uplifting the less-  privileged sections of society. IN THE PAST  THREE YEARS WE HAVE BUILT HOSPITALS, ORPHANAGES, REHABILITATION CENTRES, SCHOOL  BUILDINGS, SCIENCE CENTRES AND MORETHAN 3500 LIBRARIES. Our work is mainly in  the rural areas  amongst women and children. I am one of the trustees and our   activities span six states including Karnataka, Tamil Nadu,  Andhra, Orissa,  Chandigarh and Maharashtra. I travel  to around 800 villages constantly. Infosys  Foundation has a  minimal staff of three trustees and three office members.  We  all work very hard to achieve our goals and that is the  reason why Infosys  Foundation has a distinct identity. Every  year we donate around Rs 5-6 crore  (Rs 50 - 60 million).  We run Infosys Foundation the way Murty runs Infosys in  a  professional and scientific way. Philanthropy is a profession and  an art. It  can be used or misused. We slowly want to increase  the donations and we dream  of a time when Infosys Foundation could donate large amounts of money. Every  year  we receive more than 10,000 applications for donations.  Everyday I  receive more than 120 calls. Amongst these, there are  those who genuinely need  help and there are hood winkers too.  I receive letters asking me to donate Rs  five lakh to someone  because five lakh is, like peanuts to Infosys. Some people  write to us asking for free Infosys shares. Over the years I  have learnt to  differentiate the wheat from the chaff, though I  still give a patient hearing  to all the cases. Sometimes I  feel I have lost the ability to trust people. I  have become  shrewder to avoid being conned.   It saddens me to realize that  even as a person is talking  to  me I try to analyze them: Has he come here for   any donation? Why is he praising my work or enquiring about my  health, does he  want some money from me? Eight out of ten times I  am right. They do want my  money. But I feel bad for the other  two whom I suspected. I think that is the  price that I have to  pay for the position that I am in now.    

The greatest difficulty in having money is  teaching your children  the value of it and trying to keep them on a straight  line....  Bringing up children in a moneyed atmosphere is a difficult  task.  EVEN TODAY I THINK TWICE IF I HAVE TO SPEND RS 10 ON AN AUTO WHEN I CAN WALK UP  TO MY HOUSE.  I cannot expect my children to do the same. They have seen money  from the time they were born. But we can lead by example. When they  see Murty  wash his own plate after eating and clean the two toilets in the house everyday  they realize that no work is  demeaning irrespective of how rich you are.  I  DON'T HAVE A MAID AT HOME BECAUSE I DON'T SEE THE NEED FOR ONE. When children  see both parents working hard, living a simple life,  most of the time they tend  to follow. This doesn't mean we  expect our children to live an austere life. My  children buy what they want and go where they want but they  have to follow  certain rules. They will have to show me a bill  for whatever they buy.  My  daughter can buy five new outfits but she has to give away five  old ones. My  son can go out with his friends for lunch or dinner  but if he wants to go to a  five star hotel, we discourage it. Or  we accompany him. So far my children  haven't given me any  heartbreak. They are good children. My eldest daughter is  studying  abroad, whereas my son is studying in Bangalore. They don't use  their  father's name in vain. If asked, they only say  that his name is Murty and that  he works for Infosys. They  don't want to be recognized and appreciated because  of  their father or me but for themselves.

I DON'T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT HAVING MONEY FOR  WE HAVE WORKED HARD  FOR IT. BUT I DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE FLAUNTING IT...IT IS A  CONSCIOUS DECISION ON OUR PART TO LIVE A SIMPLE, SO- CALLED MIDDLE  CLASS LIFE.  WE LIVE IN THE SAME TWO- BEDROOM, SPARSELY FURNISHED  HOUSE BEFORE INFOSYS  BECAME A SUCCESS. Our only extravagance is  buying books and CDs.  MY HOUSE HAS  NO LOCKERS FOR I HAVE NO JEWELS. I WEAR A STONE  EARRING WHICH I BOUGHT IN  BOMBAY FOR RS 100. I don't even wear my  mangalsutra until I attend some family  functions or I am with my  mother-in-law. I am not fond of jewellery or saris.  Five years ago,  I went to Kashi where tradition demands that you give up   something and I gave up shopping. Since then I haven't bought  myself a sari or  gone shopping. It is my friends  who gift me with saris. Murty bought me a sari  a long time ago.  It was not to my taste and I told him to refrain from buying   saris for me in the future. I am no good at selecting men's  clothes either. It  is my daughter who does the shopping for  us. I still have the same sofa at home  which my daughter  wants to change. However, we have indulged ourselves with  each one  having their own music system and computer. I don't carry a  purse and  neither does Murty most  of the time. I do tell him to keep some small change  with him but  he doesn't. I borrow money from my secretary or my driver if I   need cash. They know my habit so they always carry extra cash  with them. But I  settle the accounts every evening.  

MURTY AND I ARE VERY COMFORTABLE WITH OUR  LIFESTYLE AND WE DON'T SEE THE NEED TO CHANGE IT. NOW THAT WE HAVE  MONEY. 

Murty  and I are two opposites that  complement each other... Murty is  sensitive and romantic in his own way. He  always gifts me  books addressed to From Me to You. Or to the person I most   admire etc. We both love books. We are both complete opposites. I  am an  extrovert and he is an introvert.  I love watching movies and listening to  classical music. Murty  loves listening to English classical music. I go out for  movies  with my students and secretary every other week. I am still  young at  heart. I really enjoyed watching "Kaho Na Pyaar Hai" and I am a Hrithik Roshan  fan. It has been more than 20 years since Murty and I went for a movie.  My  daughter once gave us a surprise by booking tickets for "Titanic". Since I had a  prior engagement that day, Murty went  for the movie with his secretary Pandu. I  love traveling  whereas Murty loves spending time  at home. Friends come and go  with the share prices...  Even in my dreams, I did not expect Infosys to grow  like the way it  has. I don't think even Murty envisioned this phenomenal  success,  at least not in 1981.  After Infosys went public in 1993, we became  what people would  call as rich, moneyed people. I was shocked to see what was   happening to Infosys and to us. Suddenly you see and hear about  so much money.  Your name and photo is splashed in the papers. People talk about you. It was all  new to me.  

Suddenly I have people walking up to me, saying, "Oh! We were such good friends, we had a meal 25 years ago." They claim to have been present at our wedding (which is an utter lie because only my family was present at my wedding.). I don't even know all these people who claim to know Murthy and me so well. But that doesn't mean I don't  have true  friends. I do have genuine friends, a handful, who have  been with me for a  very  long time. My equation with these people has not changed and  vices versa.  I am also very close to Murthy's family, especially my sister-in-law  Kamala Murthy, a school teacher, who is  more of a dear friend to me.  I have  discovered that these are the few relationships and  friendships that don't  fluctuate depending on the price of Infosys  shares.  Have I lost my identity as a woman, in Murty's shadow?...  No. I might be Mrs.  Narayan Murty. I might be Akshata and  Rohan's mother. I might be the trustee of  Infosys  Foundation. But I am still Sudha.. I play different roles like  all  women. That doesn't mean we don't have our own identity. Women  have that extra  quality of adaptability and learn to  fit into different shoes. But we are our  own selves still. And we  have to exact our freedom by making the right choices  in our  lives, dictated by us and not by the world.

-Sudha Murty

Don't Have a mailID !!!

A jobless man applied for the position of "office boy" at Microsoft.  The HR manager interviewed him, then a test: clean the floor.

"You are engaged" he said, give me your e-mail address and I'll send you the  application tofill, as well as when you will start.

The man replied " I don't have a computer, neither an email" I'm sorry, said  the HR manager, if you don't have an email, that means you do not exist.

And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job.

The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in  his pocket. He then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10 Kg tomato  crate.

He then sold the tomatoes in a door to door round. In less than two hours, He  succeeded to double his capital. He repeated the operation three times, and  returned home with $60 . The man realized that he can survive by this way, and  started to go everyday earlier, and return late. Thus, his money doubled or  tripled every day.  

Shortly, he bought a cart, then a truck, then he had his own fleet of  delivery vehicles. 5 years later, the man is one of the biggest food retailers  in the US. He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life  insurance.  

He called an insurance broker, and choose a protection plan. When the  conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email. The man replied, "I  don't have an email ". The broker answered curiously," you don't have an email,  and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Can you imagine what you could have  been if you had an email?!!"  

The man thought for a while and replied, " Yes, I'd have been an office boy  at Microsoft!"  

MORALS OF THE STORY:  

M1- Internet is not the solution to your life.  

M2- If you don't have internet, and work hard, you can be a millionaire.